When I walked into my routine mammogram in the summer of 2019, I had no idea my life was about to change. That day, I was asked to stay for further tests—and then came the words no one wants to hear: “You have breast cancer.”
A dear friend of mine had chosen aesthetic flat closure after her own diagnosis, and I had seen how confident and happy she was with that decision. I knew right away that I would make the same choice. Saying goodbye to my breasts meant avoiding radiation and embracing a future that felt authentically me.
But after surgery, I woke up to find swollen, painful, sagging skin where my breasts had been. My surgeon had decided—without my consent—to leave extra skin “in case I changed my mind.” His words still echo in my memory: “Women can’t be flat.”
I was heartbroken but determined. I sought out another surgeon who would listen, respect my wishes, and honor my decision. That second surgery gave me back my sense of peace—and my power. Today, I’m proud to say I’m living flat and free.
During my recovery, I felt a deep need for connection. That’s when I created FLAT is Where It’s At
—a podcast that celebrates women who have chosen to go flat after breast cancer. Through this platform, I’ve met extraordinary women from all walks of life: teachers, designers, artists, technicians, chefs, doctors, mothers, and adventurers.
Each voice adds to a tapestry of courage and healing. Black, brown, white, thin, thick, young, and old—we share laughter, tears, and truth. Together, we remind the world that flat is not a loss—it’s a powerful, beautiful choice.
You can find my podcast wherever you get your shows, or connect with me on Instagram @flatiswhereitsat
Learn more about my work and journey on my website stephanieastalos-jones.com
To understand more about aesthetic flat closure and how women like me are reclaiming confidence and choice after breast cancer surgery, visit Learn Look Locate’s educational page on Aesthetic Flat Closure
.
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