It’s been 7 months since I’ve found it. We still think it’s ironic that she asked me to check her because we don’t recall her ever asking before, even though we’ve been together for 10 years. It was non-existent a month ago, it seemed like it had popped up out of nowhere. As the “thorough investigator” you may fondle and play “in the moment” but that’s different. You aren’t actively seeking “abnormalities or lumps”. It would be wrong to stereotypically assume that you’d be able to stumble upon a growth or in this case breast cancer. She had verbally requested me to search for when we discovered it. When she asked me to check her it wasn’t of intimate mindset, it was more of a physiological examination, and because of that mindset I was able to objectively detect the peanut sized lump just below her skin, in her right breast that was thankfully Stage 1. Save a life, examine your wife.