No one told me that once I had metastatic breast cancer my sex life was likely to change. And since I was focused on surviving it wasn’t top of mind. Only after treatment is underway did I realize the true “side effects”!
I was diagnosed with MBC in late 2014 at the age of 49. I actually felt lucky to already be in menopause, otherwise it would have meant one more monthly shot to put me into menopause.
When I did hear someone who would talk about sex after a diagnosis it was medical practitioners talking about moisturizers and lubricants that can be used. While this is good practical information it really wasn’t helpful.
I even went to an expert on women’s sexual health and unfortunately it didn’t help. She had nothing to offer me, but apparently, I taught her something new (Scream Cream is a big help). Great, maybe that will help other women that she sees, and I’m happy to help but still struggling to find my help!
I struggled for years to find a way to get my “juice” back, but nothing worked. Maybe it’s cancer treatment, maybe it’s menopause, either way, it sucks. I’m dealing with vaginal atrophy and lack of libido. The loss of my libido is the biggest problem. I can find ways around the lack of vaginal moisture, but I can’t find a way to feel like doing something I don’t feel like doing!
Sex was always really important to me and I had a high sex drive. I just couldn’t reckon with this new me. This woman who no longer felt like having sex was a stranger to me.
I fought this for years. I searched and searched and talked to every doctor or practitioner who would talk to me and many of them I talked to over and over again (and still do). I tried acupuncture. I tried the Mona Lisa Touch procedure. I tried all the moisturizers and lubricants. I tried supplements that were deemed safe to take by my integrative oncologist. Nothing worked.